iss march ki subah nahin

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i think this is the woe of all parents whose children are approaching class 9 or are already in class 10-12.

they must be going bonking bonkers trying to pacify themselves and a song going in their heads yeh march kab katm hoga? but does this march month really ends. i don’t think so.it goes on forever and forever till thier children are in secure jobs and independant.

a home with a child appearing for board exams is a neurotic home. i know because i live in a joint family with 10 children .when i came to kanpur my son was only 3 months old and my eldest nephew was appearing for his class 10.i joined the family at a time when all were in a hyper state of mind. 3chachas and chachi’s,younger cousins all freaked out as if the eldest brother is going to war.to top it ,my father-in-law(god bless his soul) was the most dedicated one.he would religiously wake the boy up at 3am,ask him to make tea,for himself and my husband, the youngest chacha, and go wake him up.they had a pact that since we had come back home,chacha can be put to best use to help with maths and science. and chacha too agreed and took it upon himself as a duty to coach him and see him throuh with all dedication.morning session lasted 3 hrs with tea every hr by badi bhabhi.later malay wud be solving questions for the day sitting next to babuji,who wud be lying but mind active and sharp even at an age of 65.he wud hv already worked out the sum mentally, be it algebra,trig or science before malay and waiting for him to complete the sum.well the hard work paid and all was well as malay got thru,firstclass,and is now working. every year one child is approaching board year. u all can imagine the levels of stresses we go thru. even this year , no . 5 and 6 are giving their 12 boards and next year there will be another one for 10 and 12 and the process will go on till my son,who is class 6 reaches his 10 and 12.

so u see the cycle never ends. another thing that our education system does not foresee that it presents a different challenge for the parents .the child never escapes. all activities are palnned as per the child convinience,tuitions,classes etc. in the hope that one day we can reclaim our child from the clutches of exams. a child who has opted for science is category 1,commerce category 2 and poor humanities grp are considered the lowest of the lot and simply writtenoff. the crazy cut off percentage of colleges haunt the house.the peer pressure is now different from 10th.poor children are too busy competing with themselves only as the crowd out there is too big to compete with.they drive themselves even if as parents try hard to lower the pace. here i am talking about the ones who are actually and genuinely focussed in their minds and know what they want. there is a differnt category alltogether who presume they know all,don’t want any intervention,all the amenities,(karcha-pani,bike,mobile,ps and gadgetary that goes these days with every kid),and are out to prove that whatever u may do,i will do what i want and dare u literally to do what u can. i am really scared of this second category as they are smart chappies and really know how to fool themselves and everyone else around them thinking that we are the greatest fools,by being their parents.i have 3 such in my house,of them 2 are appearing in the 12board in less than 15 days. i hv all my sympathies for the parents and all i can do is remain nuetral,be a crying shoulder for the moms,a counsellor to the boys and make them think that i am their friend and that they can share whatever is bothering them with me(skirting the study part,of course).

the 18 year olds who pass out of school these days desperately want to believe and behave as they know where they are headed.look at them as a parent and you will see a vulnerable child ,super confused at times and would be far happier if told do what you want.can we actually read their minds and comprehend hteir fears and stresses and anticipate what they are thinking about the world of uncertainties waiting for them as soon as march is over. we as parents, need to revise and keep updating ourselves with new parenting skills every year. i thought the year malay passed out was the crisis year and a challenge and now we can handle anything.every 2nd year is a new challenge,new set of skills devised,stress levels reaching peaks,trying to keep the atmosphere around congenial, and hoping when this march is going to end.for me: its another 3 yrs before my boy hits class 10.i only pray for myself and him to keep him and hold him treat him as my baby for as long as i can and if i can hv my wish,recalim him from the clutches of the monster called EXAMS. but then as his teacher quotes” a peice of coal becomes a precious diamond under stress,so let the child face the challenge and only then he will evolve”, but in my heart,do i really want my baby to undergo all this . i really hv no idea and i still hv 2 years with me before the mad race begins for me and my son. we’ll go crazy then,till then we’ll keep saying  ” ALL IZZZZZZZZZZZ WELL!!!”

MY BEST WISHES AND PRAYERS TO ALL THE VICTIMS OF THIS SYSTEM.

MAY LORD ALMIGHTY HAVE HIS DAYADRISHTI ON ALL OF THEM AND NAIYYA PAAR LAGA DE BOSS.