lovestruck

kisse kahen

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its been quoted so many times, “Love is a many splendoured thing”, those in love say they hear music,bells ringing and all kinds of blah blah(it happens only in the films,i’m sure).it has never happened to me.yes, i do admit that when i first met my love(?), met as in actuallly met, as in jab we met, i did get goosebumps and spine chills and and for the first time in my life i was lost for words.i felt awkward, a person like me and suddenly i was transformed into a typical docile indian girl with “sharam and haya”, i don’t know what came over me. and we were engaged by then ,so nothing to fear and meeting alone on parent’s consent.nothing wrong in that. but i still get that ajeeb si feeling and after 17 years i can joke about it too, as to how naive we were(backward, so to say), looking at present generation.

the month of universal love , the mighty february,is almost done,8 days left to be precise.my calendar shows me 23 bdays and anniv’s in feb alone of my friends/relatives etc. 2 of them on 14th feb.what a strike. but is it any special to be born or wed in feb. no idea, for me love is all around,u just have to reach out and grab it and hold.

love can be with your pet,i’ve seen people who are more possesive and in head over heels in love with their pets and give their family less importance than the pet. the reason behind it i guess is that the pets give you unconditional love, they are dependent on you, for your love and care(i’m not saying that your family is not), but your pet and you share that special bond that only the people who have pets specially dogs would know what i’m trying to say.

my apologies to my loved ones because i know thay love me too dearly and their love is most important for me, dogs or no dogs, it was just an example.

then there is the married love, i am familiar with this one, some of u might not be, but as children of your parents,must see it see it every day. in the movies, first love is someome u meet by moonlight and get cozy.(only in your dreams dear).reality check: you find dirty cups in the sink,towels still wet on the bed,shoes near the bedside,instead of the shoe rack(reminds u of chalte chalte!),but you forgive because you are newly married and newly in love too.

stage 2: you start noticing all the tiny things they do differnt than you. but a few years down the line such little trivial things hardly matter as both of us have changed ourselves over the years to adapt eachother ,you take one step ahead and i’ll back off, timing is of importance, anger management ,and the best thing i learnt was take everything one at a time.stop juggling,enjoy the moment  you are in and see how much pleasure it gives you,some times the silences are also so rewarding, just sitting together,not say a word and let your thoughts do the talking.try it sometime. it does need a lot of work over the years, but some don’t, they only need some laughter, some forgiveness and most important , unconditional love (my case), where all three of the above factors were from my husband, and i learnt it from him. thanks a lot.

parental love as i see it is complicated.2 adults if they reach a point when co-existance is not possible, can still call it quits and walk away. as parents, u can’t ever even think about it.as a parent your skills and love are always on the line,constantly being checked and tested,and being reinvented.what we saw from our parents, does not work.i hv to keep finding new ways to reassure my self and my son that we love him and no matter what, we are always there for him.if they feel emotionally secure,then thay can take on any problem headon.(i think). but i can see them gradually distancing away, tiny baby, toddler, school going. now enteriing an age where he needs his space, with his friends. but however angry i may be, i have to keep my communication lies open, and keep giving my unconditional love and that is what that brings him back to me and we talk about all the stuff that he feels is important to him and needs to share.this makes me happy.at least i am aware of his current passion in life: its not books and girls, its football. and i pray that when it comes to girls(has to sometime), he’ll tell me first.

what i miss the most is the love of my friends. over the years as part of growing up, i made friends, very few, lost them , change of place, school , college, marriage etc. friends are the most wonderful, healing gifts that time gives you and those of you who have old friends still in touch with you are lucky.friends that you can call at odd hours and spill your guts to,all your dark secrets to,or just to cry on the shoulder, they are that special kind of chocolate or whisky that gets better as it ages. i envy my husband who has all of his childhood friends still and they share that special bond. for me i have to keep finding newones, i have very few, i don’t make friends easily,but the one’s i have are a true gift from god.

“those who make you smile, thank them

those who make you cry, tolerate them

and those who make you smile when you have tears in your eyes, trust them, they are your true friends, angels sent by god to lookout for you”, and i can say one thing for sure

my family and my circle of friends are godsent as without their love,i would not have been able to survive.

i am lovestruck.

should have said it long ago, but it is never to late to say  ” i love you all”

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